Posts Tagged ‘Life

27
Nov

“I’ve got news!”

By Eleen Por 6 Comments
Categories: Current Affairs, Food for Thought, Life & Love, Me, People and Social
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Considering the enormity of my news, I was careful not to shock my friends when sharing it with them. Here’s how *every single* one of them responded.

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Me : Hey, I’ve got some news to share with ya. Quite a shocker actually.
Fren : Really??? Watisit???
Me : Make sure you are sitting down and do not have any food/drink in your mouth. Dun want you to fall or choke on your food/drink. Heh…
Fren : Wait…dun tell me. Lemme guess…YOU AND LEONG/AARON ARE GETTING MARRIED?!?!?!?!? CONGRATS!!!!!
Me : Huh??? No no no no no no no …..

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So folks, for the record :

  • We are not walking or running or skipping down the aisle
  • Dating someone for close to 4 yrs does not automatically equate wedding bells
  • We are still happily together
  • We still love each other very, very much

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Really. Let’s think Out of the Box for a moment. Everything we do in Life, we do it for a purpose. We work for money. We destress to keep sane. We eat to be happy (well, for me anyways. Hehe). We drink so some folks appear ‘acceptable’. And, we get married to….?

  • Have kids
  • Prove our commitment to each other
  • Bond ourselves together
  • Obtain financial stability
  • Keep loneliness away
  • Have a reason to cohabitate
  • Others?

And my (all rights reserved) answer to all of the above - BULLSHIT.

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So far, no one is able to give me ONE good reason to have a different opinion. Yes, that’s a DARE to ya, you-know-who…

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The only one in the list that is remotely acceptable is the first one (Let’s face it, we live in Asia. Malaysia some more. ‘Nuff said.) and guess what, there ain’t any maternal instinct knocking on my door (now or ever? Maybe. Dunno. Dun care atm) and all the other reasons are total CRAP. Definitely dun need to sign any papers to get all of them. In fact, I *already* have all of them. Those that I want and need anyways. :D
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So for us, it’s really very simple. As long as we are HAPPY together, as long as our love for each other is there to make us wanna BE together, we WILL stay together. No piece of paper is gonna change that. Ever.

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Oh, and my news - is still BIG.
If you don’t already know, call or ping me someway somehow. I promise I will leave no details out. :D

16
Nov

Weekend Reflections

By Eleen Por 0 Comments
Categories: Friends, Parties, People, Social and Weekend Update
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Things I learnt in the past 48 hours :

  • Reminder not to count the chickens before they’re hatched
  • Beef has taken over pork in my life
  • Mutton soup tastes AWESOME with a dash of Dewar’s. Honest!
  • Beer is still yucky…can’t ever get used to it
  • Fitness fanatics can be reeeally fun folks outside of the gym. Amused that some are pretty darn good at sucking face. LOL.
  • The Tg Bungah floating mosque Malay food is DEE best on the entire island
  • An old, geeky schoolmate turned out to be quite a hottie!
  • Men will always be men, no matter how high they’ve climbed in the corporate ladder
  • It’s not about the looks, but always about the attitude that spells S-E-X-I-N-E-S-S

The next 48 hrs is gonna be filled with even more mind-blowing stuff, life-altering even. With much excitement and anticipation, I await.

28
Oct

Subconscious Mind - A Deadly Weapon

By Eleen Por 4 Comments
Categories: Food for Thought, Life & Love and People
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A recent conversation I had with a certain someone threw some new and totally different light to a topic that’s been boggling my mind for awhile. It made both of us think about our subconscious mind. To quote him : “Every action has an equal or opposite reaction”

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I mean, our subconscious mind can make us do things without us realising that we’re actually doing them. And it works both ways - it can work FOR or AGAINST us. Depending on how much positivity or negativity one is surrounded with. Scary, ain’t it?

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It answers alot of questions in my head but it also scares the shits outta me. I mean, I wouldn’t want to subconsciously hurt someone because I’ve been hurt by others in past experiences. It would be so blardy unfair to that someone. Then again, to quote one of Sweetheart’s fav lines - “Who says Life is ever fair?”

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So really….if hurting her would help him get over the hurt he endured years ago, I guess that’s his way of fighting his past demons then. Unfair? Yes. Real? Also yes. Sad? So yes.

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But still….to dump the onus of forgiving in her court so that he can then open up his heart and perform his own forgiving act to kill some 9-year old demons? Damn. That’s cruel. But then again, depending on how you look at it. It’s also pretty ingenious. Heh…

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Thinking about it now, I guess that explains why I do not hate a single soul in my entire life. Dislike, yes. Hate, no. I just don’t have the emotional energy to cater to such a big ask.

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Think about it : It actually takes ALOT to truly HATE someone (the worst kind of it all is the kind when you love AND hate that same someone). It festers in your heart like a disease. You think you moved on with life but hey, if you have not truly forgiven and stopped hating, you’re actually still stuck in that emotional space. It’s just pushed to a dark corner of your heart but it’s still there. And will always be there until you stop hating and let it go through the act of forgiving.

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Thanks dear….for our late-night conversations. They don’t come by often coz we are both so busy trekking water furiously to stay above the surface which zaps up our energy and time. So whatever time we get to connect is really appreciated. Truly and deeply precious.

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So folks, think about it for awhile. Of the strength of our subconscious mind and what it’s capable of. Very easily, in fact, too easily…it can take control of how we live Life. We must stay mentally and emotionally strong to BE in charge. To not allow it to hurt not just ourselves but also our loved ones. We must, ya? We must! We must!