Recently, a friend got attached and when I asked her why she decided on that particular dude after she has rejected so many who had been standing in line and working hard at winning her heart, her answer shocked me to silence.
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“Because he bought me the latest ***insert the brand name of a super expensive watch*** model which I’ve been eyeing for awhile now”
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Huh??!!? For a few seconds there, I could say nothing but gape at her in disbelief. Only to be shocked a 2nd time when another galfren said “It’s OK if you don’t really feel that hot about him now but over time, I’m sure you will grow to love him”
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What?!?! When did I go to sleep and wake up to a whole new, materialistic world???? I was *so* shocked that I had to excuse myself from those women and took some time to regain my composure.
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That got me thinking. How many percent of women in this world today think like them and how many of the rest are aghast at those tots like me? And it made me think about past conversations I’ve had with other galfrens which I’ve not given 2 hoots about, mainly because i don’t agree with them. I guess it wasn’t because the world changed when I blinked but more a case of denial on my part.
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Some of the past comments from women all around. Some I heard first-hand. Some were passed around as ‘useful tips’.
- How much does your bf/husband give you for pocket money each month? (doesn’t matter if you have your own career or not)
- Make sure your bf/husband takes you on a vacation at least once a year. Must make it an annual habit so that he ‘gets used’ to it
- Ask for at least an expensive gift (better if it’s a branded handbag or shoes that cost a couple of grand) for your birthday/X’mas
- Make sure you NEVER pay for your own meals/drinks/movie tickets when you’re out with him. EVER!
- Dudes who drive foreign cars (ie : not Proton or Perodua) score higher points in the courting phase
- If he is not willing to spend alot of money on you, he is not worth it. There are many other (richer) guys out there!
- If he offers to buy you a biz class flight ticket to go for a vacation, DO NOT BE STUPID and insist on an economy class ticket! (I failed miserably in this category)
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The list actually goes on for a few pages but I think you get the idea. Some are so ridiculous (IMHO lah) that I LOL-ed so hard and had me going “Are you kidding me?!?!?” a couple of times just to make sure I heard them right.
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So, it all boils down to : To each her own.
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And I guess I will always be the ’stupid woman’ to the other ladies who get to show off their branded watches, handbags and vacation pictures while I will most probably be watching pirated DVDs at home with my man.
A sad state of affairs, but the real world is such….sigh
I have come across a few of them who isolate themselves in this so call…. material world. Some of them are relatively happy but some do not have that happy ending.
To me, just be happy with a little bit of this and a bit of that…:)
THAT is one of the reason why some of the gals call their hubby or bf “BOSS”.
The materialistic world has been there all along, just us not participating in it. But then we are happy with who we are and we should stick with that…
Guess that’s a reason why Madonna sang the song “Material Girl”.
One can be living in a mansion and be miserable as hell, while another can lead a heavenly life in a shack. Or the other way round.
As long as we live our lives happy, eh folks?
You could achieve 365 x 24 hours or 366 x 24 hours happiness yearly by practising:
JUST FOR TODAY BE HAPPY!
Could you do that for this material world?