Today, I’d like to write about a topic that means alot to me.
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As I go through this exciting and demanding journey of Life, I discovered that I may/have to tolerate many unpleasant things…but there is one thing I have ZERO tolerance for - Lies.
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I do not tolerate lies to myself and definitely not to/from others. Yes, I am dead serious about it. That’s how much it means to me. Of coz that makes it the easiest way to hurt me. Words, actions, physical objects - none of them all could hurt me as deeply as lies could.
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I do not claim to be a guru or a walking lie-detector but over the years, my alarm bells are tuned to go off when lies are flashed in front of me. Sometimes, I have proof to call them bluff but other times, I don’t. I just know it. Nevertheless, one important lesson I learnt over the years is that there is absolutely no point in calling anyone bluff. All I needed to do was to shut down. Shut down my ears to their lies, and shut down my heart to that friendship/relationship. It may sound drastic but It’s the only thing I can think of doing to save myself from being hurt.
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"I lied ‘coz some folks cannot handle the truth!"
"I lied ‘coz I want to avoid confrontations!"
"I lied ‘coz I don’t want to hurt others!"
- these are some of the many reasons liars give.
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My answers to them :
"Who are you to decide what others can or cannot handle? God?"
"Not all confrontations have to be ugly. It’s up to you to make it amicable."
"Do you not realise that you are hurting them MORE by lying???"
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It’s basic yet, a lot of folks never really think about it when they dish out lies. They never stop and think for a moment that as soon as the first lie is out, they have to be prepared to dish out the 2nd, 3rd, 4th and God knows how many more lies to cover the very 1st one.
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Awhile ago, someone very close to me fed many lies to a person who loved him deeply. I kept advising him that he should stop the lies but he kept insisting "She is too immature to handle the truth! I HAVE to lie to her!". I cried many silent tears - for her and for him. I wondered when he will stop stringing her along with his complicated web of lies. He never did.
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Almost two years of many, many lies later….the inevitable happened.
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The lies caught up with him and she finally realised all the stuff he had been feeding her were total BS. What I feared most happened - he lost her friendship. I may seem cruel to say this but I do not feel sorry for him - not even the tiniest bit. To me, he deserves every single shitty treatment she is giving him today.
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I am not going to attempt to speak on behalf of others coz we all know that every individual is different. I will not argue the point that there are actually some folks in this world who prefer to be lied to. They prefer to live in their own little safe world and to quote a common saying - ‘To close one eye to the real world happening around. It’s easier that way.’
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So this is a special message from me to you :
Please dish me the truth - no matter how hurtful you think it may be. Trust me. To me, no truth is as hurtful as lies.
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And the minute you dish out the first lie to me, please be prepared to lose my love, and my respect, for you. That, is a promise from the depths of my heart. 
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